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There are many different types of bondage, using a variety of materials - tape, straightjackets, handcuffs, leather restraints - but rope is my favourite. Rope itself can be rugged or sensual, or both at the same time. It is a very versatile material which can be used to bind someone in a very simple, practical way or a very complex, attractive way.




Rope is a no-nonsense, non-fussy resource that is relatively cheap and very portable. Its use as a bondage material can present possibilities and challenges that inspire a great deal of creativity.




In human history, rope is probably the earliest material used to restrain people, so it has historical precedent. In feudal Japan it was raised to an art form (hojojutsu, from which has evolved the modern erotic Japanese bondage art nawa shibari).




Today rope bondage in many forms is very popular, both as simple kink and as a form of erotic art. It can be very simple or very complex, and for beginners it is advisable to start small and get some experience with simpler techniques before moving onto the more ambitious creations.




It is also important to remember some basic points on safety at all times. See Rope Bondage Health & Safety




Rope: Buying, Preparation, Storage




You can get rope from a variety of places, and depending on the type and the source, the price can vary a great deal. If you are just starting out you don't need to look too far or spend very much, just get some decent basic stuff. Your nearest hardware store should have what you need.




Make sure it is rope, not string, twine or plastic cord! It should be at least 4mm in diameter (this will be on the label). Either natural or synthetic is OK. Natural rope most often available is jute, which is brown and has a coarse, hairy texture. Cotton rope is very soft and usually a lighter colour. Most synthetic rope you will see on sale is polyester, which comes in a variety of colours and has a smoother texture.




You won't need tons to begin with, but you will need a fair amount. A bundle of ten metres of jute will cost about £5. Get two bundles. Keep one as it is, and cut the other one into two, three or four so that you have pieces of various lengths to play with. It is best to have relatively shorter pieces for tying hands and feet, for instance.




When you cut rope you will be cutting the fibres that it is made of, and the ends will fray. Some people like the look of this, but it can make bondage tricky and erodes the rope, so seal the ends with tape.




For different types of rope go to a chandler's shop or use online suppliers.




There are different ways to store your rope when you are not using it, the best way being so that when you get it out again to play with, you can do so quickly and easily.




What you DON'T want is to start a horny session by pulling out a tangled mass of rope that looks like a big ball of spaghetti, and spending ten minutes sorting it all out.




This is my method:




1 - Tie a loop in the midpoint of the rope. If you want to do something with your rope that looks neat and symmetrical, you will need to find the midpoint. You could mark it with ink, but that spoils the overall look. Find the middle by bringing the two ends together and holding them in one hand, then running your hand down the doubled rope until you reach the other end. Tie a simple loop here, not too tight.




2 - Double up the rope. Bring the trailing ends up to the midpoint loop and hold them and the loop in one hand. Let the rest dangle loose.




3 - Double up again. Repeat this process until you have a thick bundle of rope with the midpoint loop at the top.




4 - Knot the whole rope. Tie the whole thing in a simple knot and pull it just tight enough that it won't slip.




You now have an easy to store, easy to find bundle that will be ready to use in seconds. To use, undo the big knot and hold the midpoint loop. Let the rest of the rope fall to the ground. (If the rope is very long, and you have enough room, hold onto the midpoint loop and throw the rest of it away from you.) It will fall loose and untangled. Then undo the midpoint loop and you are ready to go.




Binding Hands: Wrap




There are many different ways to tie someone's hands together, but the best way is to do so is in a way that is safe, simple and as easy for YOU to undo as quickly as possible. For this, the basic wrap is a good method:




Place the sub's hands in front of him, palms facing, a few inches apart.




Take a medium-length piece of rope and drape it over the wrists, with the midpoint of the rope between the wrists.




Wrap both ends of the rope around the wrists a few times, forming a large loop, preferably without crossing the lines.




Using several lines to form the loop helps distribute the width of the rope lying on the skin so that it 'bites' less. (You can speed this process up by doubling the rope at the beginning, as in the picture above)




Keep the distance between the hands. There will be plenty of space in between them.

When you have about ten inches of trailing ends left, wrap them around the loop several times, starting in the middle and working outwards. Continue until you have closed the loop, but not so tight that the rope meets the wrists.




Keep a space of one width of your finger between the rope and the skin.

Tie off in the middle with a reef knot - left over right, then right over left.




Check to make sure that the loop has not tightened, you want the sub to able to move his hands around within the rope, but not pull them out. This will ensure that circulation is not restricted. It should feel comfortable for him.




Binding Hands: Shackle




The above technique can be used to tie hands behind the back if the arms are parrallel, but is difficult if the wrists are crossed as there is very little space between them. The shackle is better:




Wrap the rope around both wrists together several times.




Pass one of the free ends under all the lines and out the other side.

Now do the same with the other free end, in the opposite direction.

Tie off in the middle with a reef knot - left over right, then right over left.

Check to make sure that the shackle is comfortable and not too tight.




The shackle can also be used to tie hands in front of the body with wrists crossed.







Rope Harness Techniques




These are methods for binding the arms behind the torso:




Rope Harness




Reverse Rope Harness




Shoulder Harness




Reverse Shoulder Harness







Resources




Different types of rope have different properties. Both natural and synthetic rope can be used for bondage. For a good guide to all the different types available, go to ESINEM.com and Click on "Rope".




A good book to get you started is Showing You the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys, currently about £7 from Amazon. It is a a step-by-step guide to knots and techniques, with lots of easy to follow photographs.




The best way to learn anything is from other people. In the Links section you will find websites and organisations where you can talk to bondage/BDSM people, most of whom are very happy to answer questions from newbies.